Years ago, I visited Taos, New Mexico seeking to work with a famed Native American medicine woman who lived there.

I had come wanting to be healed, having lived through a few really difficult years right before featuring death, loss, divorce – all of which had been piled on top of my already-present childhood trauma.

She asked me why I had come, and I immediately started in on sharing the details of my past, all of the pain and hurt that I had suffered.

To my utter shock, before I could even finish my first sentence, she immediately waved her hand impatiently in front of my face and said, “That is a really boring story. Do you think you are the only one who has a story?”

And then, she looked at me intently and said, “If you keep telling that story then it will keep following you around.”

I immediately realized that she was right – that was a really boring story.

And that by telling that story, I was allowing it to continue to define me.

That “story” I told was keeping my past fully alive in the present.

One of the most powerful ways that you can learn to lose your “story” and no longer allow your past to define you is by doing past life work.

Once you realize that you have lived before, in many past lives and have had countless experiences in different bodies and forms, you can begin to see that there is a “bigger picture view” of your journey over many lifetimes.

You can see firsthand that you have lived and died before in a thousand ways.

And so, by exploring your past lives you can begin to see that who you are is so much bigger than your “story”.

And, once you learn to lose the “story” from your past, you are no longer limited by it and are then free to write a new story for yourself about who you want to become in the future.

And so, when you do lose the old “story” from your past and begin to write a new one for yourself and who you want to become – make sure it isn’t a boring one!